An hair-raising experience

 

Going to the hairdresser for me is an eventful occasion. Visits are no more than once every two to three months, usually a bit like the dentist I end up putting it off until something forces me to book an appointment. It’s often when there is a special occasion a family wedding etc. that I make an effort. Today was a case in point I made an appointment for the eve of the Service of Collation when I am officially installed as Rector of the Parishes of Hedsor and Bourne End. Unlike going to the dentist once there I find the experience therapeutic and stress free. There is nothing as calming as reading a magazine with the whirring noise of the hairdryer whilst the warm air penetrates every strand of your hair and scalp. The lady who does my hair and have been for the past five years originates from Zimbabwe, most of her colleagues are from Africa and they frequently speak their native language in my presence. I find it hugely engaging, listening to their stories (when they speak in English) watching their body language, the tuting, the uncontrollable laughter, the groans of discontent when they disapprove of bad behaviours but most of all the advice they pour out on each other. They all seem so natural, open, honest, willing to speak about their lives, providing support and encouragement, admonishing when it’s necessary and when they are unhappy about the behaviour of a friend, colleague or family member, whether they speak in English or not, I am left in no doubt of their extreme disapproval.

Although many work extremely long hours a recent survey puts hairdressing as the happiest job role to undertake.  I long for the experience of church to be as natural with a willingness to speak about our lives as openly. I long for Christians to be that supportive and encouraging with each other without fear of how we are perceived. Church life can sometimes be a place where there is a lack of willingness to share openly, eager to save the feelings of others and in many cases hiding our own.  The same life issues affects us all, sharing stories, laughing together, even the groans of disapproval and discontent provided done in the right spirit can be helpful in dealing with the stresses and strains of life.